Massive Mental Shifts – Episode 1

Posted on 18. Oct, 2011 by Mike in Mindset, Personal Development

“Learn From the Best Mentors You Can Find, but Make Sure to Be YOU”

Over the past few years I’ve been on a mission to re-map my life and have made some incredible discoveries…

I’ve made discoveries about life, business, work, other people, technology, marketing and most importantly …myself.

Some recent events over the past few weeks REALLY cause me to look a lot closer at myself and I made another massive shift in my thinking.

You see, since I’ve been on this journey, I’ve been learning from some amazing mentors.  We’re talking multi-millionaire marketers, super sharp business minds and creative types, a counselor, a few pastors, the homeless and the unemployed, my family and friends, my wife and and my children.

Now this may not be a secret to those that know me, but I’m an EXTREMELY emotional person (No,  I will NOT watch Old Yeller with you thanks) and I’ve been ashamed of that and used it against myself in the past.  This time was different and I think it guided me and allowed the shift to happen.

Recently I had a discussion with a mentor that absolutely shattered me…temporarily.

It shattered me because I don’t think there is anyone in the online business world that I respect more and I thought we were friends.  That’s a whole separate discussion.  Point is that he did (as he always has) helped cause a shift that would move me into the next phase of my growth journey and I never saw it coming.

The discussion we had went sour because I said something unfair to him where I basically failed to take responsibility for my own actions and placed some of the blame on him.

This made him lash out and retaliate with  with a few hurtful phrases that basically were very raw and cutting….but were true.

I spent a day or so completely deflated and depressed, emptied the tear ducts and wanted to quit.

Now I maybe “thick” at times and I’m far from perfect but I’m a pretty damn smart kid overall and I simply refuse to give up.  In my raw emotional state I realized a few super important things that may be of use to you, especially if YOU are on a journey to better yourself and you’re learning from others that have gone before you.

(Side Note: I see people quoting other people on Facebook all the time and I do it too.  I’ll be tying each of these “episodes” to thought or learning right out of my own head.  They may be loosely or even not-so-loosely based on a quote that caught my attention…carry on

“Learn From the Best Mentors You Can Find, but Make Sure to Be YOU”

See, this dude is a business rockstar and has taught me many valuable things but what happened was I got way too wrapped up in what HE was doing and too far drawn away from being myself.  I so desperately wanted to build my business to be just like his that I actually stopped being myself.

I literally wasn’t making any moves or progress because I was trying to build someone else’s dream.  I  wasn’t able to admit it before our “altercation” but I wanted to see his next move  and then go back and build a duplicate.  Trouble was that I was so wrapped up in watching what he was doing and waiting for the next move that  I wasn’t actually building ANYTHING of my own.

That brings me to my next topic and the subject of episode 2… Sometimes the greatest growth comes from the greatest pain…

I hope you’ve enjoyed or at least got something out of this post.  Leave your thoughts and comments below and enjoy the journey…

Mike